Tuesday, 14 August 2012

The Flexible Working Decision



After returning back to work on July 25th 2012, I was greeted with the fact that my priorities had changed. I was a Mummy who needed more time with her baby, and this was not not the only change to have come around in my 13 months absence.

The company had moved on, I was not relied upon any more. My passion for the work I was doing ceased to exist. With all of these different emotions and feelings of resentment to missing out on my little man, I applied for flexible working. 

I made my application after my first 3 days back at work, and it has taken this long to hear their response. As the weeks have rolled by it has given me ample opportunity to think about what I want to do. What I would love to do. The same thoughts keep coming up in my head, and those bright sparkly ideas are telling me that I don't belong where I am anymore and I long to re-train in public relations.

I am putting my all into finding the best route into going about this and work experience seems to be a good road to take. I am lining my options up and trying not to put all my eggs in one basket. 

Today however I received really good news, that will hopefully aid my stride in chasing my dream. My application for flexible working has been granted. The date this will all start is October 1st 2012. 

I was called up for a meeting with the Operations Director. I suddenly felt really nervous, and I felt my heartbeat skip a beat, and until that meeting was over it beat so fast I thought it may jump right out of my chest. I don't know whether I was scared, or just worried that they may not approve it, or the fact that they might? 

The director told me with a smile that it had been approved and handed me a letter sealing my fate. 

This will give me more time with Leo, and more time for me to really get into what I want to do. I feel so different about being back at work, with all the changes that I cannot get my head around, and no longer feeling like part of the furniture, but more of an outsider looking in. 

I still need to get Luke on board with my flexible working. I just need him to understand that I need to do this for Leo, and I need to do this for myself. It is not about me not wanting to work because I do. I still also want to achieve all of the same goals that he does, but I also need a little bit of compromise in this. 

I think long term it is best that I chase my dreams now, to put us in better stead for the future. This dream is never going to go away and this precious time with Leo is still rolling by, without me. 

Do you have any advice in how I can make Luke understand? Make him see where I am coming from?

Thank you to everyone who has wished me all the luck in the world with my mission to seek flexible working and for all of your advice. I greatly appreciate it.

Laura 
xx

16 comments:

  1. aww brilliant im so glad you managed to get the flexible hours :) x

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  2. congtatulations on getting flexible working and good luck with Luke! Sure he will come around eventually x

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  3. I'm glad your flexible working was approved. And that you have decided what you would like to do with your life, career wise. I think children often put things in perspective when it comes to your goals and dreams for the future.
    No advice I'm afraid on how to get Luke on board, but good luck. Perhaps just a good sit down and chat about it would help. X

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    1. I am glad, I am looking forward to it and also getting my self sorted. Thanks lovely, the chat we had seems to have helped xx

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  4. I am glad it was approved for you, I have been waiting to hear your news. I have no advice about Luke, all I know is unless we were in dire straights financially I would rather scimp and save and work part time than leave Mads. Children put a lot of things into perspective and I feel lucky that I still have a career, albeit a part time one and lots of time with my girly too.x

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    1. Thanks Katie. Luke seems to be coming around now and I am actively looking into work experience! xx

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  5. first time here and i'll like to start by congratulating you on getting your flexi hours approved..yay!

    I am guessing Luke is your partner? i think with some men they think we (women) no longer want to accomplish our dreams when children come along (my hubby can be like that as well). But we know better, we know there is a time for everything...

    i think you should just let him know you have not given up on your dreams but right now you believe flexi hours is the way to go especially for your LO...which you intend to revise in the future as he grows older.

    You can show him by your actions that you are still the vibrant hardworking person he knew...by making a commitment to learn something new everyday or do something towards achieving your dream albeit small.

    I believe with time he will come around..

    off to read your other posts.
    aloted

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  6. Great news! Being with your baby and happy is the most important thing, I'm sure Luke will see that in time. Best of luck with the new arrangements, I'm sure everything will slot into place - it has a nack of doing that! As Katie said above, being with bub is more important than money! Lx

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    1. Thanks lovely, It all seems to be coming together now and I am looking forward to making some changes xx

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  7. Well done sweetie and may I say how gorgeous both you and Leo look in that picture. Utterly stunning. Anywho I don't have any real advice I'm afraid the only thing I can say is just be honest with each other. Tell him how you just told us for honesty really is the best policy. I think once you have spoken to him as passionately as you have written here he will totally get where you are coming from. From what I have heard/read about Luke he will then support you in your choices. Good luck sweetie and all my best to you and your gorgeous family, Kate (aka Makeshift Mummy from www.facebook.com/MakeshiftMummy) xx

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    1. Aw thank you! It all seems to be coming together now. A few bits and pieces I need to sort but all looking pretty good xx

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  8. Good on your for applying and even better that you got what you wanted for you and your family. I was never that confident and always put everyone else first in the end I had to leave my place of work. As you say I returned to a place that was different and more manic with not enough support. I was shell shocked and only lasted 6 months there. That said I'm now at home with my toddler and while is more tiring than being at full-time employment its loads of fun... well most of the time, lol.

    All the best and role on October!

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    1. Thank you! I hope you are enjoying your time with your little one :-)
      Yes! Roll on October!
      xx

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